Frazzled? Desperate? Exhausted? This parenting boot-camp will tame your tots and help you raise your dad game.

Feed, change, bathe, rock, clean, repeat… There are times when the parenting treadmill can feel like a relentless test of mental endurance. And that’s leaving Baby Shark out of the equation.

Becoming a dad can feel like death by endless, helpful suggestions. But some advice is particularly dangerous.

The first step in tackling a problem is to recognise it exists. Yet that’s proved the biggest traditional obstacle to help new fathers struggling with depression. Associate Professor Richard Fletcher, who leads the Fathers and Families Research Program, recalls a large-scale survey run by Beyond Blue in 2015. “One of the questions was, ‘Can dads get postnatal depression?’ he recalls. “And about 50 per cent of men and women said ‘no’.”

Tom Harkin trains men to develop their emotional muscle. The personal development expert and workshop facilitator is the founder of Tomorrow Man, a social enterprise aimed at starting a conversation among men to reinvent masculinity by challenging traditional stereotypes. Here, he talks about the evolution he hopes to see in fatherhood for the next generation.